Friday, September 08, 2006

Movin' On

Yep, it's time.
I've been blogging here, off and on, for about a year. It' s been fun.
But, you know, my energies and attention have been elsewhere. I find I'm doing my best writing on my website and for my newsletter. People have been telling me I should put up my newsletter articles on a blog, so I'm going to. And, I'm moving them to my website.
You can keep up with embracing change by going to my new blog page. Please keep in touch.

Saturday, May 20, 2006

For your inspiration. . .

The moral of the story is. . .you just never know when you're making a difference, UNLESS you set your intention to make a difference. Then, any time, any where, the Universe might bless you with acknowledgement and encouragement to continue. I received this email from a former student who is finding true success on her chosen path. Read her story, resolve to make a difference, and let us know what shows up.

This entry is submitted by Leslie S. of Las Vegas, Nevada:

"I would like to nominate myself for the Embracing Change Award.
My childhood was one of violence and abuse. Insistent that there was another way to live life, I set out at the age of 19 determined to "find" myself, much like Hesse's young Siddartha. Somehow I ended up in Las Vegas, and it was here that I came to understand harmony and found peace.
In my 8 years in Las Vegas, I finished both my Bachelor and Master degrees in music--the latter done in one year. I received a 4.0 GPA on my M.M., and while working on it, I continued to work as a full-time music specialist in the Clark County School District. My job requires that I provide the music education for students in Kindergarten through 5th grades utilizing the Orff-Schulwerk Method which I am fully certified in, and although I get paid nothing extra for it, I have choreographed, produced and directed more than 30 shows involving at anywhere from 25 to 400 students. Furthermore, my choirs and instrument ensembles have performed with the Henderson Civic Symphony and PBS and are continually invited to sing at UNLV Choral Festivals, CCSD School Board meetings and other district and region music festivals. In my spare time, I continue to grow as a musician by singing in local churches and choirs and playing cello, piano, recorder, and dancing. I also enjoy lounging around at home with all my kitties--big and small--while reading, practicing yoga, and studying a more positive way of life. I hope that I may continue to grow and embrace change--so that I may bring laughter and joy to others, so that we may one day live in peace."

[This is MBS again. The most powerful thing to me is that this forum gives people permission to acknowledge for themselves what they have accomplished. Peace be to you, dear Leslie, our most recent nominee for the Embracing Change Award!]

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

A Wake Up

Yikes! How do four months pass without posting to the blog? I'll tell you--busy DOING instead of talking! I've been writing a lot in my monthly and weekly newsletters to my clients of the Feldenkrais Center of Houston, and may post some of those gems here. I've been nurturing a relationship with my SO, Chris. Often, I just don't feel like I have anything to say, or that what I have to say couldn't possibly be THAT important. However: now I am awake. A specific issue woke me up today, and I hope it wakes you up, too.

Go to savetheinternet.com immediately and call your representatives. Every one of us who uses the internet, especially if you are not a mega-corporation, has a HUGE stake in this issue. I have posted logos on both of my websites, and am using my teeny influence on this blog as well.

So the companies who provide the internet access, or the "pipeline" people, want to be able to charge more for speed. The companies that provide a lot of content to the pipeline, like Yahoo, or Citibank, currently make use of the speed to be able to load all of their content and features onto sites. The great thing now is, so can I. If Congress allows the pipeline companies to charge a premium for high speed features, either the "little guys" (like me) will have to pay huge fees or STOP. Right now, the playing field is truly level. I have as much access as the mega-corporations. And so do you.

This is important for anyone with a blog, anyone with a small business, anyone who downloads anything. Many voices can be heard now on the internet. So go to www.savetheinternet.com now and take action: sign a petition, call your representatives, and make some noise. Of my three representatives (Rep. Culberson, Sen. Hutchison and Sen. Cornyn), none has yet taken a public position on this vital issue. They are waiting for us.

Saturday, December 24, 2005

Ghosts of Christmases Past

I still observe Christmas.
"Observe" is such a curious word. Much like "Practice." Two words, which in modern life and for most people, have habitual connotations that are paltry compared to the richness that lies within.

For example, "to observe" somehow implies that one is a bystander, on the outside looking in, somehow OB-jective, uninvolved. But observing can be intimate, non-judgmental, accepting, noticing--even appreciating the details, the variations, the texture and fullness of the experience.

In our Western mindset, the word "practice" implies what you do before you are ready to perform. You practice in preparation for "the real thing," whatever that is. Not ready to have a baby yet? Gotta practice! Practicing law, or practicing medicine--until they get it right, goes the old joke. Non-musicians sometimes see musicians rehearsing before the big concert, not realizing that practicing is a daily discipline that reconnects the musician to the music, to the instrument, to the self, and to the others with whom the music will be played. To "practice" anything---means the daily doing of the thing, in that search for re-connection.

I know that my understanding of observation and practice have evolved mightily over the last several years. This year, I re-invented the way I "spend" the holidays. (Another interesting word, spend.") For the first year since my divorce, the four of us have not been together for Thanksgiving or Christmas Day. Not that we were maintaining any kind of charade for anyone, the pantomime of a happy family. We just "naturally" (or, more accurately, "habitually") have gathered at the family home. That was what we did, but increasingly I have felt more disconnected than re-connected. This year, my children came to Houston for Thanksgiving, my ex stayed in Austin and spent the day with friends. I went to Austin for this past Friday and part of Christmas Eve day, then drove back to Houston to attend MY church and spend the evening with my sweetie. The making of conscious choices---this, not that; here, not there---has been powerful and emotional for me.

It is comfortable, although non-habitual, to spend Christmas this way. Something a little odd, but historic. It's the first Christmas Eve night and Christmas Day since 1976 that I haven't spent with my ex-husband. All those ghosts of Christmases past rear their heads---some beautiful, some ugly--but most are just wistful, and sad. The way for me to acknowledge and honor the past, and be done with it, is to do something new. This definitely marks a change, a shift in something, and a centering. There are tears. Seems like a cleansing, and a birth.

I decided that Christmas is a time to spend with people who LOVE YOU. (Not just "people you love." If they don't love you back, it's the worst worst ever to be with them at Christmas.) No, be with people whom you KNOW love YOU. If you're by yourself, that's who you most need to love. (Obviously, it keeps going---people want to be with you because they know you love THEM.) That's why I chose my kids, and my church, and my self. Love is being allowed to grow in my new relationship. I don't want it to be like the Amaryllis bulb that you keep in the closet before Christmas, then force it to bloom. No, Christmas is about love, and light, and lots of it. Isn't everything that's good and true?

Friday, November 11, 2005

Indian Summer, New Moon, and other developments

We thought we were going to have fall. A week of mild temperatures lulled us, seduced us into believing that fall was really here. It's our only indicator of the season here in Houston, where very few leaves actually "fall,"---although I suppose you could track the wardrobe changes of the fashionistas and detect subtle color and texture shifts that try to manifest the season though the power of costuming. (It's part of what makes the damn Christmas decorations so incongruous---see previous post!) This week, however, we're back in the 80s, and a few people are cranky. Up north, this might be known as "Indian Summer:" a time when, after the first cold snap, unseasonable warmth reappears, ostensibly as encouragement to tide one over during the long, dark, cold months ahead.

This Indian Summer or whatever we're experiencing now has brought with it a promise of newness. The new moon that's started growing in the sky seems to be reflected in my psyche. Perhaps the cooler weather helped me to relax and enjoy life a bit more, welcoming possibilities and changes, letting go of the old, the outgrown, the emotional clutter. Just like clockwork, when space had been prepared, something new appeared. For me, new energy and vision, new business opportunities and clients, and a new relationship. Life is feeling pretty darn wonderful right about now, especially since some of my friends are so cranky.

I find myself welcoming whatever is to come. As a friend of mine said yesterday, "The Universe is WAY COOL."

Thursday, October 20, 2005

An Affront to All That's Decent

Noted: Yesterday, OCTOBER 19, 2005, at 10 a.m., while driving on Westheimer through River Oaks and the Highland Village shopping center, what did I see but a huge, red, glittery bow sitting on top of a building. Another huge "ribbon" adorning the top of Pottery Barn. Another BFB (Big F. Bow) sitting on top of P.F. Chang. A crew on a cherry picker, mounting god-knows-what--probably a candy cane---in the first of the long line of palm trees lining that part of one of Houston's busiest thoroughfares.
So, well before Halloween, we already have Christmas glaring at us.
I don't mean to sound like a humbug. I don't know where 2005 has flown, other than out the proverbial window.
I saw the artificial trees for sale at Sam's a few weeks ago, and rolled my eyes. But I wasn't devastated--no, OFFENDED-- by that as I was surprised by my response to those damn bows.
And, you should know--ask my friends---if there were a "Least Likely to Be Offended By Anything" award, I would definitely be in the running.
I realize the workers can't realistically put up giant candy corn in the palm trees for such a short ramp-up to the Halloween holiday. But those big bows, before one doorbell has been rung or the words "Trick or Treat!" even uttered----
it's just WRONG.
I will continue to embrace what is NOW--OCTOBER---and allow space for the inevitability that the joy of Christmas will soon be here. When it's time.
Some good old pared-down penetential Advent is looking really good about now. . .

Monday, October 10, 2005

The Best Thing Ever

Sunday morning in Chicago. Usually a pretty quiet time to head downtown on the "El." I'm a devoted Red Line girl myself. I stay with friends up in Rogers Park and get on the train at Sherwin---the next-to-the-last stop before the end of the line, at Howard in Evanston. With sentimentality I rarely experience anywhere else, I relish the view of Lake Michigan, the gorgeous skyline as it appears around the corner; the great people-watching, and above all, pulling in to the Addison platform, right across from Wrigley Field. In Chicago rarely enough that the ride never becomes drudgery, those train rides are part of my "total sensory experience" whenever I'm in the city, and I groove on it! I often ride during rush hour, both ends of the day. But this Sunday morning, I'm meeting my friend Carla downtown for brunch at one of our favoriate restaurants. We're going to spend the day catching up on business and personal matters. I'm excited.

It seems to be a typical Sunday morning in Chicago, with very few people on the train. But then, as we pull in to the Belmont station, the platform is so crowded, it looks like 8 a.m. rush hour on a weekday morning. The passengers pile on to the train. They are in groups of three, four, seven, eight. Each group wears a matching t-shirt: "Where's Jamie?" (bright, electric orange). "See Jane Run". Pennants, balloons, flowers. Fullerton stop. More t-shirts, more noisemakers, a megaphone, "Go Kevin!" The joy, excitement, and yes, LOVE are absolutely palpable. These are the friends, loved-ones, and co-workers of people who are running in the Chicago Marathon today.

Friday when I flew to Chicago from Houston, I got a little taste of the marathon. I sat next to a few people who were traveling to run. They were animated, yet laid back at the same time, reading their running magazines, poring over technique columns and shoe evaluations, talking about where they were staying, plans to rendez-vous afterwards. Other runners on the plane were easy to spot by their physiques and by their very cool sporty gear. As people disembarked, it became obvious that everyone on the plan had had a conversation with a stranger about the Chicago Marathon. "Good luck!" "Run well!" "Have a great race!" Such well-wishing after a commercial airline flight struck me as highly unusual, and I savored the great feelings well past the baggage claim.

But this morning, on this train---unbelievable. Crazy hats, wardrobe evolving to the level of theatrical costuming rather than just simple team unity. I hear the clanking of cowbells above the din of the train-noises and the conversation--a whimsical rural noisemaker in this urban setting, it makes me giggle. Each get-up more over-the-top than the last. Excited conversations. The woman sitting next to me was in from St. Louis. She and her friend had hoped to cheer their husbands at an earlier checkpoint, but had missed them. They were taking the el to try to intercept them at another checkpoint on down the line. People were on and off the train, well before downtown, apparently doing the same thing. Strangers talking to strangers, a lady from Delaware. "My son." "My girlfriend." "My best friend's brother." Laughter, smiles, appreciation.


OK, so now I'm going to make a really corny statement. The ENERGY on that train, and probably every train rolling on this morning, was so overwhelmingly positive, cheerful, loving, giving, and expressive without concern of foolishness (in fact, that sort of seemed to be the point). Every one of those people was doing what they wanted to be doing, had made an investment in attire (or regalia, as the case may be), and were spending a Sunday morning focused on celebrating the achievement of someone else. No resentment, no martyrdom, no competition, no worry or concern. Just love, fun, acknowledgement, and support. It was a demonstration of selflessness and joy that was so PURE, people just seemed to be shining. Who knew that the Transfiguration of humanity was happening on the CTA?

I feel such pleasure, joy, and appreciation whenever I am in the presence of groups of people--even LARGE groups of people--who are all gathered to have a good time, to laugh, to cheer, to appreciate. (The Art Car Parade in Houston is one of my favorite events for that reason.) Those are the occasions--the mile-markers-- when I feel most intensely alive, and deeply grateful for it.

My friend and I met for a fabulous brunch, and we sat in a window seat which allowed us to see more folks making their way to be at the finish line. A riot of color, humor, creativity. Our conversation centered around more serious matters--contemplated decisions, transitions, preparing for change, preparing for growth. We share a lot of laughs, and a few tears. Later in the day, I spent a beautiful few hours cuddling 6-month-old Nick, the son of dear friends, as they went out on a rare movie date. Upon their return, as Nick and his mommy romped in the floor. his giggles and chortles turned into belly laughs of the deepest delight. The fullness of life, and this particular day, overflowed through my tear ducts. I am not nearly done.